The past few years, I have worked hard to get to a point where I genuinely don’t care what people think of me. It hasn’t been easy and has largely been a lot of work to overcome all the insecurities I had developed, as well as the doubts and lies I have been fed my whole life.
Society, the Fashion Industry, Social Media, Media, on the Whole, Peers, Friends, Family, other Men, and Women try to make us conform to what they think we should be. When we don’t conform to that image of what is beautiful, normal, or to them what we should be, and how we should behave; there is no shortage of off comments, snide remarks, backhanded jabs and straight up letting the whole world know our shortcomings according to them. They haven’t walked a mile in our shoes, and/or they are insecure about themselves, or they just want something to nitpick at, to try to make themselves feel better by dragging someone else down.
I had gotten so sick and tired of hearing about being the fat girl, and that I wouldn’t get a man unless I was skinny, or that I am not supposed to love the outdoors, hiking, camping, gardening, and doing anything less than being a proper lady.
Well, Guess What? I don’t play by their rules. I don’t care. If I am not pretty enough, that’s their problem. I’m not skinny enough? again their problem. Not into fashion enough (or at all), I don’t care. Not into makeup (like at all)? I have better things to do with my time.
For the past decade and a half, probably a bit longer, I have done my own thing. I have always been the type where if I am told I can’t do something, I am like “oh yeah, watch me”, and I go out and prove them wrong.
It seems like every so often I come across another woman who has similar views on doing what is right for each of us and being able to rise above the haters and the naysayers and living our own best life.
Life is too short to be a Negative Nelly or a Debbie Downer. It may not be easy to be a positive force in the world, in the end, I would rather work my butt off to encourage other women, young women, and girls to be able to rise above and out of the box that the world puts each of us in. We all deserve the opportunity to live our life, without having to live our life according to anyone else.